The Power Of Love
by Gini Grey
December 20th, 2010 10:27 AM
What images and notions come up for you when think about love? Warm and fuzzy feelings, romance, heartache, passion and devotion are some associations to the word.
Do you have any rules and expectations around love such as how people should treat their loved ones, or who you can and can’t love, or how people are supposed to express their love? All of these concepts and regulations actually inhibit love. Love isn’t a commodity to be traded, sold, bartered or negotiated. It’s the essence of who we are and it is free flowing within us.
Many have been taught that to be loved requires having someone else love you. This just leads people to restrict the amount of love they feel based on how many people love them or how much others express love to them. You can’t get love out there and you can’t measure love. It originates within us and it’s infinite.
We don’t really need to have someone else in our lives in order to feel love, although it is a divine expression when shared between two people. It doesn’t matter if your parents expressed love to you growing up, how many friends you currently have, or whether you have a loving partner. Only you allow or stop the flow of love into your life. No one can give you any more love than you already have and no one can take it away.
When you truly love yourself and recognize that love is a vibration that exists within you, you can fully share love with another. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned to look for love through another which leads to codependence and neediness. When people feel upset because their partner isn’t expressing love to them or because they have difficulty attracting a loving partner, the source is usually a lack of self-love.
How you feel about and treat yourself will be mirrored back to you. By increasing your self-affinity, not only will you increase your self-esteem, but you will radiate this vibrancy out to others and it will be expressed back to you in abundance.
In order to have more love in your life, try the following exercises:
Become aware of your current ideas and rules you have about love. Write them down on a sheet of paper. For any concepts that are limiting, restrictive or conditional, cross them out and write down new ones that are more truthful, freeing and supportive.
Tune into the feeling of love: recall a time when you felt loving or loved, or just simply activate the vibration of love within you. Let this feeling flow through your whole body, down to the cells and then imagine it radiating outside of you, creating a cushion of love around you. Do this daily until it becomes a habit for you to feel this way.
Treat yourself lovingly every day. Be kind to yourself, listen to your body, change any negative self-talk into caring words. Be your own best friend.
Whenever you feel lonely, or hurt by another’s unloving behavior, remember it’s a sign that you need to love yourself more. Give yourself exactly what you need to feel cared for and supported.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi.
Gini Grey is a Transformational Coach and Author, helping people to live from their center and create the life they want. For more information, articles or products, visit www.ginigrey.com.
Copyright North Shore Magazine Issue Feb - Mar 08
Do you have any rules and expectations around love such as how people should treat their loved ones, or who you can and can’t love, or how people are supposed to express their love? All of these concepts and regulations actually inhibit love. Love isn’t a commodity to be traded, sold, bartered or negotiated. It’s the essence of who we are and it is free flowing within us.
Many have been taught that to be loved requires having someone else love you. This just leads people to restrict the amount of love they feel based on how many people love them or how much others express love to them. You can’t get love out there and you can’t measure love. It originates within us and it’s infinite.
We don’t really need to have someone else in our lives in order to feel love, although it is a divine expression when shared between two people. It doesn’t matter if your parents expressed love to you growing up, how many friends you currently have, or whether you have a loving partner. Only you allow or stop the flow of love into your life. No one can give you any more love than you already have and no one can take it away.
When you truly love yourself and recognize that love is a vibration that exists within you, you can fully share love with another. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned to look for love through another which leads to codependence and neediness. When people feel upset because their partner isn’t expressing love to them or because they have difficulty attracting a loving partner, the source is usually a lack of self-love.
How you feel about and treat yourself will be mirrored back to you. By increasing your self-affinity, not only will you increase your self-esteem, but you will radiate this vibrancy out to others and it will be expressed back to you in abundance.
In order to have more love in your life, try the following exercises:
Become aware of your current ideas and rules you have about love. Write them down on a sheet of paper. For any concepts that are limiting, restrictive or conditional, cross them out and write down new ones that are more truthful, freeing and supportive.
Tune into the feeling of love: recall a time when you felt loving or loved, or just simply activate the vibration of love within you. Let this feeling flow through your whole body, down to the cells and then imagine it radiating outside of you, creating a cushion of love around you. Do this daily until it becomes a habit for you to feel this way.
Treat yourself lovingly every day. Be kind to yourself, listen to your body, change any negative self-talk into caring words. Be your own best friend.
Whenever you feel lonely, or hurt by another’s unloving behavior, remember it’s a sign that you need to love yourself more. Give yourself exactly what you need to feel cared for and supported.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi.
Gini Grey is a Transformational Coach and Author, helping people to live from their center and create the life they want. For more information, articles or products, visit www.ginigrey.com.
Copyright North Shore Magazine Issue Feb - Mar 08
