Cultivate Your Gorgeousness
December 28th, 2010 05:44 AM
The Romans called this month Aprilis – believed to be from aperire, “to open.” Maybe because April is when spring is really on its way – flowers and leaf buds literally spring into life all around us.
So, what better time to cultivate your own gorgeousness – when nature is doing the same all around you.
When we’re feeling gorgeous, we feel great about ourselves and the world. Life becomes easier and people treat us differently. Smiles and laughter all round. So, where to start?
Well, first you have to believe it. Gorgeousness comes from within – believing you are gorgeous, treating yourself as if you are gorgeous… even if you don’t fully believe it yet.
Unsurprisingly, our inner gorgeousness is harder for people to see when it is not reflected in our outer appearance. It shouldn’t matter what we look like on the outside. But have you noticed that when we meet someone who doesn’t look after their appearance it sends a hidden signal – that they don’t value themselves?
Coco Chanel said “When a woman is badly dressed, you notice the clothes. When a woman is well dressed, you notice the woman.” Some people are lucky to be blessed with great genes and look beautiful without trying. But gorgeousness is not about having perfect features, flawless skin or even the perfect outfit. These things don’t automatically make a person gorgeous.
Gorgeousness is about loving and respecting yourself. Gorgeousness is about making the best of what you have. Believing you are worth it. Taking pride in yourself, inside and out. And there are other benefits of feeling gorgeous. People take their cues on how to treat you – from you. Other people won’t treat you better than you treat yourself. So, why not model the way you want the world to treat you – by cultivating both your gorgeousness. If you want people to treat you well, you have to show them how.
Five ways to Cultivate Your Own Gorgeousness
1. Try starting and ending the day with a few positive affirmations – Say 10 times, “I am gorgeous.” Take time after each affirmation to really feel it, believe it. Tell me you don’t feel more gorgeous afterward. Keep this up for three weeks and I guarantee people will notice!
2. When you find yourself feeling a bit low, ask yourself, “If I really thought I was gorgeous right now, what would I do?” Even if it feels silly, just do it.
3. In order to start to feel gorgeous we need to let go of the negative self-talk. We are good at focusing on what is wrong with our appearance or the inner qualities we lack. Instead of “look at the cellulite on my thighs,” try to focus instead on your “gorgeous ankles” or “beautiful eyes.” Put your energy and attention on what is gorgeous about you and watch yourself blossom.
4. Spoil Yourself. Treat yourself to a new lipstick, colour consultation, a new item of clothing in your favourite colour, or a fabulous haircut. Do it, wear it, enjoy it!
5. Avoid comparisons. With several billion people in the world there will always be someone more caring, beautiful or intelligent than you. Comparisons are a waste of energy. Focus instead on what is great about you. You have your own unique qualities that make you adorable, special and gorgeous, so why wait for someone else to tell you? Write down what makes you unique, special and gorgeous. Right now! Write now!
Learning to cultivate your own gorgeousness is a great first step towards having a happier and more enjoyable life!
Emma-Louise Elsey is a Certified Life-Coach and NLP practitioner based on the North Shore. www.simplicitylifecoaching.com 604-990-9068 e-mail emma@simplicitylifecoaching.com
Copyright North Shore Magazine Issue Apr - May 07
So, what better time to cultivate your own gorgeousness – when nature is doing the same all around you.
When we’re feeling gorgeous, we feel great about ourselves and the world. Life becomes easier and people treat us differently. Smiles and laughter all round. So, where to start?
Well, first you have to believe it. Gorgeousness comes from within – believing you are gorgeous, treating yourself as if you are gorgeous… even if you don’t fully believe it yet.
Unsurprisingly, our inner gorgeousness is harder for people to see when it is not reflected in our outer appearance. It shouldn’t matter what we look like on the outside. But have you noticed that when we meet someone who doesn’t look after their appearance it sends a hidden signal – that they don’t value themselves?
Coco Chanel said “When a woman is badly dressed, you notice the clothes. When a woman is well dressed, you notice the woman.” Some people are lucky to be blessed with great genes and look beautiful without trying. But gorgeousness is not about having perfect features, flawless skin or even the perfect outfit. These things don’t automatically make a person gorgeous.
Gorgeousness is about loving and respecting yourself. Gorgeousness is about making the best of what you have. Believing you are worth it. Taking pride in yourself, inside and out. And there are other benefits of feeling gorgeous. People take their cues on how to treat you – from you. Other people won’t treat you better than you treat yourself. So, why not model the way you want the world to treat you – by cultivating both your gorgeousness. If you want people to treat you well, you have to show them how.
Five ways to Cultivate Your Own Gorgeousness
1. Try starting and ending the day with a few positive affirmations – Say 10 times, “I am gorgeous.” Take time after each affirmation to really feel it, believe it. Tell me you don’t feel more gorgeous afterward. Keep this up for three weeks and I guarantee people will notice!
2. When you find yourself feeling a bit low, ask yourself, “If I really thought I was gorgeous right now, what would I do?” Even if it feels silly, just do it.
3. In order to start to feel gorgeous we need to let go of the negative self-talk. We are good at focusing on what is wrong with our appearance or the inner qualities we lack. Instead of “look at the cellulite on my thighs,” try to focus instead on your “gorgeous ankles” or “beautiful eyes.” Put your energy and attention on what is gorgeous about you and watch yourself blossom.
4. Spoil Yourself. Treat yourself to a new lipstick, colour consultation, a new item of clothing in your favourite colour, or a fabulous haircut. Do it, wear it, enjoy it!
5. Avoid comparisons. With several billion people in the world there will always be someone more caring, beautiful or intelligent than you. Comparisons are a waste of energy. Focus instead on what is great about you. You have your own unique qualities that make you adorable, special and gorgeous, so why wait for someone else to tell you? Write down what makes you unique, special and gorgeous. Right now! Write now!
Learning to cultivate your own gorgeousness is a great first step towards having a happier and more enjoyable life!
Emma-Louise Elsey is a Certified Life-Coach and NLP practitioner based on the North Shore. www.simplicitylifecoaching.com 604-990-9068 e-mail emma@simplicitylifecoaching.com
Copyright North Shore Magazine Issue Apr - May 07
